Ask yourself what you want and the job/relationship/city/fill in the blank will materialize in your mind
This week’s newsletter is about something that took me years to properly understand – there is endless power in asking for what you want! The longer version of this piece appeared in Greatist this week. And asking to buy someone a latte is a one of the best questions I have learned to ask!
Until recent years I had not consciously understood the magical power of asking. It was only upon deep reflection after turning 30 that I realized there was a common thread amongst the attainment of a lot of my dreams. Throughout the years I have made myself vulnerable and asked for what I wanted. Anyone can learn how to do this more frequently and more effectively. I believe that your life’s path can truly come down to a few defining moments and a handful of important questions.
I wanted to write for the online publications that I love to read and so I approached a lot of them and pitched my ideas
“Would you like to take my phone number?” In my twenties I was living in Sydney and going out a lot like any single girl. One night before Christmas, my friend and I went to a local concert. I spotted a tall, handsome fellow in the crowd and was pleased when we got pushed together and started chatting. He made me laugh. He seemed very genuine and warm. Before my friend and I left, I asked him, “why don’t you take my number?” And he did. And he called the next day. We celebrated 5 years of marriage this year.
My first full time job was as a recruitment consultant and I saw the behind the scenes of a lot salary negotiations. I also understood how replacing a high performer was extremely time-consuming and expensive. As a result I understood my value as a hard-working, high-output employee. Since then I have negotiated every salary from role to role and each time that I had increased responsibility and/or a good amount of success in my position. Read more
