To use a dating app or site effectively, you actually have to engage with people
Of course, creating your profile is only half the battle. Someone’s profile can only tell you so much, and your goal is probably not to establish a relationship online – you therefore need to meet potential matches in real life. People are typically very meticulous, and it’s not uncommon for someone to spend thirty or forty minutes on a dating app and not engage with anyone in that time, but this is not the approach I’d recommend – you really need to engage with as many people as possible. This means being open to people who you are even remotely interested in and getting to the point where you’re actually meeting them in real life so you can really make your assessment.
Whether you meet someone in real life or online, authenticity is the name of the game. Baby boomers, Gen Xers and millennials are much quicker to lie in their profiles. But Gen Z is really all about authenticity and what I call embracing the quirk – in my opinion, it’s a much healthier way of going about things. The key is to stand out based on your individuality. You want to be utterly true to yourself, and you want to be so transparent in terms of who you are and what you believe that it might even push some people away.
This is why we’re beginning to see more people include political and social beliefs in their dating profiles
I realise that not everyone is good at talking about themselves or putting themselves forward and identifying what their virtues are, but you can get help from other people. Read more
