We have both recommitted to each other and it’s true that if you can survive the affair, and really work on your marriage, it can be better than it was in the beginning. I know you don’t want to hear that and I’m sorry things didn’t work out for you, but keep your head up, things always have a way of working out.

It stopped completely when I found out about them. We never experienced any hysterical bonding that you read about so much. I don’t travel much for work in fact I think I only went out of town on business once during that time for a couple days. Of course that didn’t matter because OM lived only 4 miles away. I know she was at his house, hotels, cars, parking lots, parks, bars…etc. She claims OM has not been to our house. Of course, I don’t believe that for a second. If she was cold enough to bang him in his marital home and in my car, that she drives around our https://lovingwomen.org/pt/blog/sites-de-namoro-vietnamitas/ children in, then our doing him in our home was most likely not given a second thought. She would never admit anything. I found all of this out from their messages but they only spanned 3 months of their 1 1/2 year affair.

What the hell

I am sincerely happy for you Xterra. I have read that in can be so much better after reconciliation…and I believe it. I guess it just wasn’t Gods plan for me. It’s OK to hear this has happened for other couples. I honestly wish it could have happened for me as well…and that makes me sad. I am slightly comforted by the fact that I did everything I could to save us.

I said I was surprised

I can’t believe that middle aged women would actually take there clothes off on line. Do they not know that it can be replayed and reported anytime again without them knowing it. Also are they that sure about how good they look nude for the whole world to see. I asked my husband if he ever felt self conscious about undressing in front of a stranger and not be judged. He said no it didn’t occur to him and he didn’t feel self conscious . He’s a man in his 50’s, overweight and let’s just say not as firm as he used to be. He said she was no prize either naked. Shouldn’t we all be a little self conscience at a certain age? It’s just weird. This convo caused a little bit of a fight. He said I called him fat and ugly which I didn’t. I’ve grown used to his flaws where someone else might not be. She saw dollar signs when he got nude so I guess she could look past a lot of it.

Trying hard, I can’t imagine myself stripping off in front of another man, I’m too self conscious, just wouldn’t be comfortable. You know what, my h knows it too, that I wouldn’t. Maybe that’s why he feels safe with me. Yet the ow, had no trouble taking her top off in front of my h. So it makes me wonder, how she could after only separating from her h not long before setting her sights on my h. She was with her h for 20 yrs, yet she easily took her top off in front of my h. God knows what elsemshe took off in her attempts at stealing my h affections. Yet then I guess too, she was looking at the $$$$$ too. Btw this is a religious women too, I guess faith goes out the window too, they seem to forget what’s right and wrong when they sets their sights on someone.